Kyler Chan, firstborn of James Chan

My son was born on October 27th, 2011 at Mount Alvernia Hospital, after a 6-hour labor. Adrenaline and eager anticipation kept me going as I stood by the birthing bed without sleep, and shared in my wife’s birthing pain as she crushed my hands within hers with each passing contraction. She was brave enough to go au naturale and skip the epidural, but ended up hanging on to the nitrous oxide mask for dear life as she went from 8cm to 10cm dilation. I’m glad we are having a baby in an era where the father is allowed to stay and experience the entire birthing process; it’s quite the journey. But in the end, all that matters is that mother and child are safe and healthy.

Printout of contractions halfway through the birth

My wife was the one who came up with the name Kyler. I had shortlisted my list of names down to Wesley and Anders, but these domains weren’t available. I liked all 3 equally and in the end, GoDaddy made the decision for me. I bought www.kylerchan.com as my first present to my son. A geeky gift from a geeky dad ;-).

It has only been slightly over 11 days, but I’ve lost all track of time since we welcomed him into our world. Like co-founders in a startup, my wife and I try to get involved in every step of the aftermath even though we have the help of a confinement nanny – from nappy-changes and poo/pee clean-up to his fussiness and insatiable hunger. My wife thinks she’s a milk vending machine and my eye bags have gotten worse, but everything feels alright when we see him in peaceful slumber.

I‘ve always believed that children are the best parts of their parents combined. That is why, in the end, it is us parents that end up learning from our children. Kyler has already taught me to smile a lot more and to cherish and appreciate what I’ve got. I eagerly look forward to the countless lessons he will be teaching me.

As I end this entry, I’m reminded of the Three Character Classic, a Chinese prose I memorized when I was a teenager, that will light my parenting path.

人之初,性本善。性相近,习相远。
苟不教,性乃迁。教之道,贵以专。
养不教,父之过。教不严,师之惰。
子不学,非所宜。幼不学,老何为。

– excerpt from 《三字经》

Kyler, peacefully asleep.

About James Chan

James Chan is an entrepreneur, investor, geek, photographer and husband/father based out of Singapore. Apart from frequent travels to Vietnam, Myanmar and Indonesia for work, James can also be found online via his trusty 15" Retina MacBook Pro or iPhone 6+.